Beginner Bondage How To's

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You and your partner have finally agreed to get down and dirty and indulge in some bondage fun, but you're unsure how to do so successfully. No need to worry! This is actually quite common because the word bondage has a variety of options associated with it, some being extremely intense. Follow these tips and you, and your partner won't get too freaked out and you'll be busy getting kinky instead!

Bondage is all about control and trust. It is a mix of domination and submission and if you do something that breaks that trust, you will get an immediate shut down from your partner. Now you may be wondering how you can break such trust, and it is actually quite simple. If you go too far, do too much or get too intense, your partner will feel like you are going overboard and may even feel violated or that you are truly out of control. Remember, this is role playing. Avoid any mistakes by having a secret word, and be sure to start slowly.

Like most fantasies, there area huge variety of ways you can indulge. Since you are beginners, again, be sure to start slowly. Although those crazy nipple clamps and leather masks look intriguing, be sure to save those items for another time when you and your partner are ready to try more intense options. The most common beginner's bondage toys are handcuffs, a blindfold and maybe even a small whip and they are awesome for people such as yourself that are just beginning. As mentioned previously, you don't want to freak your partner out, or be freaked out before you get to really enjoy what bondage is really like, so avoid anything too crazy.

Aside from physical toys, taking your indulgence into bondage slowly can be applied to your actions and thoughts as well. You want to make sure that you do not cross that fine line of having your partner being unsure, to completely scared. You can avoid this by starting with small steps. Be physically slower and pay attention to your partner's reactions, comments and concerns. Since you are beginners, it is more than okay to ask your partner if they are okay or if they like something.

Once you are both comfortable with your frisky bondage desires, feel free to slowly introduce more, act faster and be more aggressive. Keep the communication lines open in regards to what you like and what is too much. Again, avoid any mistakes by having a safe word and paying attention to your partner's reactions.