Man 1: "She undressed me, tied me to the bed, blindfolded me and left me completely helpless. She went on top of me. She did everything she could to me, and before I knew it, it was over and it was one of the best sex encounters we've had in a long time."
Man 2: "We were sitting inside the office conference room; she took off her heels and started caressing the back of my legs. I felt her feet go up and down to my thighs and then she started touching my crotch from the table below. Next thing I know, she was opening my fly and she was giving me a hand job, I have never been given a hand job in public, let alone in our office. It was both mortifying and exciting at the same. I came the minute she went down on me. It was amazing. She was amazing."
Man 3: "I was sitting at our school library when a woman approached me. She was definitely older, but had a body that rivals that of the younger women in our campus. Turns out, she was a London escort. She sat beside me, pretended to read what I was reading while stroking my "ego". I thought she'd stop at the sight of the librarian but before I knew it, I was inside her and she was moaning like there was no tomorrow. It was beyond amazing."
Do these situations ring a bell to you? How about anything similar that happened to you in the past? If your answer is yes, then congratulations! You are a well experienced man, or at least based on your imagination. But just because you've been sitting all day, fantasising about how you want to be pleased by your woman doesn't make you any good as a sexual partner.
Studies show that majority of the men who fantasise are those that are not sexually satisfied, while a minority reports that a part of this fantasy is being adored by other women. And although we get the whole "Napoleon Complex" or the blatant narcissism that men want to portray, you can't hide the fact that the reason why you're not satisfied is because you don't know how to please either. Just imagine if the man can fully satisfy her woman, then she would gladly return the favour. But if you're just sitting there or lying in bed waiting for her to do it, then forget it pal, we think you're better off in your imaginary world where orgasm come as fast as the bullet train.
The key to understand how sexual fantasies work is to learn to accept that fantasies don't last, but reality does. The only reason why these fantasies work is because they come in handy when the sex becomes dry, but if you're constantly fantasising and doing less of the actual thing, then let me be the first to tell you, you're not getting laid any time soon.